My Unique Journey
With over two decades in the dating and relationship industry, I now specialize in Attachment-Based Dating & Relationship Coaching for emotionally intelligent adults who are ready for secure, lasting love.
I work with singles over 35 and 40 who have accomplished so much in life — yet still find themselves repeating familiar relationship patterns. Whether you lean anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, I help you understand how your attachment style shapes who you choose, how you communicate, and why certain dynamics feel magnetic but unstable.
Many of my clients are re-entering dating after divorce or long-term partnership. They’re thoughtful, successful, and self-aware — but tired of attracting emotionally unavailable partners or overthinking every interaction. They don’t need surface-level advice. They need insight, strategy, and emotional recalibration.
My work blends real-world dating expertise with attachment psychology to help you:
- Break anxious–avoidant cycles
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- Strengthen emotional regulation and boundaries
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- Rebuild confidence after heartbreak
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- Attract emotionally available, secure partners
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I understand firsthand how vulnerable dating can feel, especially when you’re carrying past disappointment. But I also know what it feels like to build a connection that is calm, mutual, and deeply aligned.
This isn’t about leaving love to chance.
It’s about doing the deeper work that makes a secure partnership possible.
If you’re ready to stop repeating patterns and start building something stable, intentional, and lasting, I’m here to guide you.
Certified Expertise
To ensure I provide the best guidance, I became certified in Dating, Relationships, Matchmaking, and Life Coaching, along with additional certifications in Attachment Theory, Somatic Attachment Training, EFT/TFT Tapping Master Practitioner, and NLP Practitioner. My training equips me to offer comprehensive support, focusing on finding the right match and building and nurturing great relationships.
My Mission
At Love & Dating, my mission is to help emotionally intelligent adults break free from anxious and avoidant relationship patterns and build secure, lasting partnerships.
I work closely with each client to develop a personalized, attachment-based strategy that strengthens emotional awareness, deepens confidence, and transforms how they show up in love. This isn’t just about improving your dating experience; it’s about shifting the internal patterns that shape it.
My goal is simple: to help you move from confusion and inconsistency to clarity, calm, and secure connection.
My Approach
My approach is attachment-based, supportive, and practical.
We begin by gently identifying the patterns shaping your relationships and understanding how your attachment style influences who you choose and how you show up. From there, we build emotional confidence, clearer communication, and the skills needed for secure connection.
I provide a safe, non-judgmental space where you can explore your fears, desires, and relationship goals with honesty. Together, we create a path toward a calm, healthy, lasting partnership, one built on security, not uncertainty.
Take the First Step
For over two decades, I’ve helped accomplished, self-aware adults break free from anxious and avoidant relationship patterns and move toward secure, lasting love.
You don’t have to keep repeating cycles that leave you confused or discouraged. With thoughtful, attachment-based guidance, you can build the calm, emotionally available partnership you deserve.
Love isn’t meant to feel like a guessing game.
If you’re ready for clarity, confidence, and a secure connection, let’s begin.
The Success Stories
"The work I've been doing with Debra has been a game changer. I have been single for 8 years, actively dating, but rarely would I go out on a 2nd or 3rd date. I pretty much gave up on the idea of having a life partner. Working with Debra has been an eye opener. She has helped me identify destructive patterns I fall back on in moments of fear of rejections. I've been dating the same woman for 4 months now and I'm very optimistic. I'm so thankful to be working with Debra, I only wish I would have started earlier. I highly recommend her to singles in all stages of dating. "
~ Jason 50, Atlanta, GA
"I can't thank Debra enough for the incredible transformation I've experienced in my dating life. Her guidance and support have helped me break through my limiting beliefs and overcome challenges I never thought were possible. Debra's personalized approach to coaching has helped me set clear goals and healthy boundaries. With her help, I've finally met the woman I want to share my life with. I highly recommend working with Debra if you're looking to unlock your full potential and live a fulfilling life."
~ Tom 58, Portland, OR
" Starting to date after being in a long marriage was overwhelming. I had no idea what to do as far as meeting new people, dating techniques, advice on first dates, and not feeling uncomfortable or awkward. After working with Debra within three weeks everything shifted, I started to feel confident, it became fun and I'm enjoying getting out there. Dating is hard but with guidance and support it became an exciting journey and one that I will never regret. I am dating great guys, having fun and will hopefully find love again."
~ Jennifer 48, Chicago, IL
"With Debra's guidance and coaching I have seen a dramatic difference in both the process, and the quality of women I’ve been meeting. I know we’re in the early stages but feeling very confident that her expertise will result in the committed relationship I’m looking for. "
~ Bill 51, Darien, CT
"Debra has completely changed my approach to dating, for the first time I'm enjoying dating. My confidence is up, my energy has shifted, I'm meeting amazing women and I couldn't have done it without you. Debra you're the best! "
~ Mark 50, New York
 "My experience working with Debra was invaluable. My confidence had been shattered, I was lost and knew what I was doing wasn't working. Having a loving relationship with a quality man seemed out of reach and like a dream others got to experience. From day one Debra's coaching was amazing. She made me feel safe and understood. She was able to help me uncover why I was attracting the type of men who were not aligned with my goals or wanted the same type of relationship I wanted. Debra guided me along into a meaningful relationship. There was some tough love, but her dedication and professionalism let me know that my goals were important and now I am MARRIED to the man of my dreams. "